Don't Let It Break Your Heart

So, people can be jerks.
Like, there is absolutely no soft side to that.
Everyone can be a jerk sometimes. And maybe, if you're reading this, you're thinking of some friends that spontaneously are ignoring you and also making you feel like they're somehow trying to steal your other really good friends away from you (people you've known longer than they have. Also, these ignorant friends are what I'm thinking of right now, and no, I really could care less if they read this and get offended.) Or, you might be thinking of your ex boyfriend or something who is seriously the biggest jerk face ever right now, or maybe your family who just doesn't make an effort to understand your situation right now, or maybe some guy that just shattered your heart into a million scattered pieces.
You aren't alone. And I know that's so cliche, but it's nice to be reminded of every once in a while.
My points:
1. Don't forget about yourself, take care of yourself, but don't become self-centered and end up trying to purposely hurt people in the process (I've been on both sides of the spectrum- both sides are no fun)
2. Our life is made up of an infinite number of choices. Try to make the one that you believe would be a "win-win" situation. It helps me, at least.
3. If you feel you're trying to make an effort to stay in someone's life, but they're acting like an absolute insane psycho freak, and probably ignoring you or being really mean and hurting you- hold that freaking door open for them. (It doesn't matter what they're situation is. If you're trying to help and mend the situation and they don't want it, just leave. It's the lousy truth, and even I have major problems living by it, but you gotta let those people go, if they've let you go. Don't look back.)

Ok, so let's look more into these three major points that hopefully will help you guard your heart a little more. It's nice to love everyone, and I truly believe we should love everyone! Even those people who are insane psycho freaks or your annoying little brother or your best friend or the druggie that lives down the street- we should love everyone.
Ok, so...
1. You can't forget about yourself, sweetheart! Now, for me personally, I feel like I am the most absolute self-centered person there ever was. I often find myself saying before a sentence: "This is gonna sound so selfish, but..."
However, you absolutely can't forget about how you're feeling. Don't keep holding onto things that are harming you more than they're helping you. I know it's hard, and if you find yourself on the side of ignoring someone because they're hurting you, then do whatever you have to do to live a happier life. But I would strongly, strongly advise to let them know what they did wrong, especially if they are trying to make an effort to see what they did wrong and mend the relationship. Don't keep ignoring them. You're hurting them as much as they might be hurting you, and that is no good, and then it turns into selfishness. Nobody needs more of that drama. Honestly, I've tried to be hurtful and ignore people (like ex-boyfriends, people who said something mean, etc.).
It's nice to just let it go! Forgive them! Talk to them! Life will be so much happier! I've discovered this, as well, in my few years so far on this earth.
2. Try to make the choices that you believe are right from the bottom of your heart. You can still have fun without shooting up heroin. Try to find a situation that will be beneficial to both people in a relationship (this goes for dating, friendships, family, etc.)
3. And also, if you are trying to stay in someone's life, because you want to be there for them, and they're your friend, boyfriend, etc. but they are absolutely not talking to you or being absolute jerk faces (again, I've been a jerk face and a person trying to reach out before), then give them distance. For example,  I was ignoring one of my best friends, because I was heartbroken over something they did- it was an idiotic reason why I was mad at them, by the way- and I just wasn't really talking to him. Apparently, he was asking all around about me, making sure I was okay, and would come and check up on me every so often. Of course I was being such a jerk face (I feel awful about it), but finally we ended up talking again and now we are just as close as we ever were. I couldn't do it anymore, I had to talk to him- I feel absolutely awful if I feel like I'm hurting someone or did something bad- and he just said, "I know you seemed sorta bothered by something, and I just decided to give you some distance." I really respected that. He's a really great guy, and I knew he would still be there for me, even though I did need some distance.
Let them know you will be there for them. If they are completely trying to cut you off or trying to make you feel bad, then just let them go completely. That's it, really.

But, don't let this break your heart. I believe God lets certain people come into other people's lives at certain times- and maybe those people stay there forever, or maybe they leave, but these people all teach us something: what it's like to love another person. And then another. And then another.
And if people are making you feel bad or misunderstood, or you just can't understand someone or they're really hard to read (I know I'm probably like that), then realize that everyone's circumstances aren't any better or any worse than any others. Your mom may be schizophrenic, and another person's life may seem perfect, but that's no reason for telling that other person that their life is perfect. It's like telling someone they can't be happy, because someone else in the world just saw their family for the first time or got married. That's stupid, no offense. Everyone has something that's hurting them.
And don't let stupid people or hurtful people break your happiness.
Don't let it break your heart.